How Blogging Can Make Your Marriage Stronger

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Whether you’re an amateur blogger or a professional who makes a living with your site, you probably know that blogging can be a pretty singular pastime. In many cases, a serious web publisher’s spouse doesn’t know much at all about blogging–nor do they have the interest to learn. Sure, your husband or wife might read your new posts every now and then and compliment your work. For the most part, though, bloggers simply don’t show their spouses how easy it is to translate their interests into a successful blog.

By failing to share your own passion for blogging with your spouse, though, you’re missing out on a great way to improve your relationship and grow as a couple. When a husband and wife are both involved in blogging projects, it helps them interact, bounce ideas off of each other and appreciate more of the benefits of marriage.

Here are a few simple tips for getting your spouse started on the path to successful blogging and using it to build a stronger marriage.

1. Help Them Identify Their Passions and Talents

The first step in launching a successful blog is figuring out what your most marketable interests are and how to translate them into good web content. Your own blog might be about making money online, but that doesn’t mean your spouse’s blog has to be about the same thing.

Blogs are seldom successful unless their topic is something that the writer is interested in, so help your spouse make a short list of his or her favorite hobbies and passions. Help them choose one topic that they think they could write something about every day.

2. Show Them That There Are Successful Bloggers in Every Niche

Your spouse might initially be skeptical that a blog about their specific interest could be successful, so show them some examples of other bloggers who have made their mark in the same niche.

Regardless of what your spouse’s passions are, there are bound to be several examples on the web of bloggers who have created successful blogs on that topic. By showing your spouse some of these sites, you won’t just make them more excited about blogging–you’ll also help them “learn the neighborhood” and know where to go to start professional relationships in their chosen niche.

3. Setup and Launch Their First Blog

If you’re a veteran blogger, you probably know all the basics of choosing and purchasing a domain name, installing a content management system, and editing design and appearance. By doing all of this for your husband or wife, you’ll help them surmount the first big hurdle and get right to blogging. Give them a brief tutorial on how to post to their new blog and manage links and comments, but don’t make it too overwhelming.

4. Help Put Together a Simple Blogging Plan

Those of us who have been blogging for years know that the keys to success are gradual but consistent publishing, link building and interaction. Show your spouse how slowly your own blog grew in its first few months, and make sure they realize that success will only come with patience, consistent posting, and communication with other bloggers.

By putting together a very simple blogging plan that your spouse can follow, you will make their success much more likely. Help them plan things like their posting frequency, article topics, linkbuilding activities and social media presence. By putting together a road map for their first few months of blogging, your husband or wife will have a better understanding of the steps they need to take and will be less likely to abandon their new project.

5. Offer Advice, But Let Them Grow and Develop Their Own Style

As they get better at blogging, your spouse’s writing style, posting schedule and linkbuilding tactics are probably going to become vastly different than yours. There’s nothing wrong with offering your advice about how they can better their blog, but don’t fall into the trap of thinking that their site needs to follow the same path as yours if it’s going to be successful.

Once your husband or wife has become comfortable with managing their blog, start asking them their opinion when it comes to your own site. You might be surprised at how much some fresh insight can improve your own blogging experience. And by involving your spouse in your own web publishing projects, you’ll both start to feel more like part of a blogging team.

In time, your spouse’s blog might even go on to be more popular than your own . . . but remember, it isn’t a contest! Help your spouse celebrate all of their blogging milestones, and always remember that their blog’s success is also helping you build a more vibrant, mutually satisfying marriage.

Phil Van Treuren writes on Killer Campaigning, a blog about political campaign strategy. His wife, Jessica, writes on Chic Relationships, a blog focusing on women’s relationship advice.


42 thoughts on “How Blogging Can Make Your Marriage Stronger”

  1. Neil says:

    John… you are right! I love getting my wife involved in my Misc Grillings posts when we cook out…

    Good stuff!

    1. I have gotten a couple of my friends interested in blogging after I started and told them about it. It really comes down the how interested the person is in spending time writing blog posts.

      I think it is important to realize that only help when it is needed, trying to push someone or being their motivator is not always a healthy thing.

      1. exactly! I think if the flame is there within them, then it will all work out as long as they get minor guidance to get started

        1. Yeah out of the two friends, one needed the technical help in setting up the blog. Now they write posts at her own frequency of one post per week.

          While the other friend who seemed very passionate about writing and setting up a blog had been a complete failure. I set up the entire thing and kept following up to see the first post to see the results of my effort. Every time I have asked, I have gotten one excuse or the other. So I realized not to ask and come across as nagging! When they are ready they will invest the time.

      2. It’s largely about whether or not they are writing about their passion as well. That’s definitely the most important factor to anybody I talk to.

        1. This is not John this post is from Phil Van Treuren.

          I think blogger give more opportunity to interact with each other.

          If they have different passion than certainly they can help each other by providing own field experience.

  2. Hi John!,

    Great post!. I have re-tweeted it! :]

    1. It wasn’t John, check out the author of the post 🙂

  3. jtGraphic says:

    I tried this with my wife about a year and a half ago. It was right before ASW09, and I brought her and got her all excited, but she kind of fell through on the execution. It’s not for everyone, but our relationship definitely got a boost from the project.

  4. Great post Phil! And well timed as my husband recently celebrated his first blogging anniversary 😉 Whilst I am the one that makes money from blogging, he uses it as a relaxation from his main “job”, without monetizing his blog. But having this project together, has helped him to understand a bit of “my online world” and that is more important then the odd extra buck for our relationship, SY

    1. Congrats to this!!!

      “I am the one that makes money from blogging”

      Thats more than most can say!

  5. my wife is happy using email, youtube and if she ever needs facebook she uses mine. that is about as close to a blogging that she will get 🙂

  6. Yes! blogging can also help you both relieve your tensions and stresses at the end of the day… It’s quite therapeutic.

  7. Not married yet John lol.

  8. Hey John, thanks a bunch from me and Jessica for publishing our article! Glad you liked it, we appreciate the opportunity . . .

  9. Marek says:

    Not married here, but it makes sense. Blogging can be a common interest even for people with nothing in common, because you can blog about anything you want to! Of course you probably shouldn’t marry someone you have literally nothing in common with. 😛

  10. Portland says:

    This is great! My future wife and I are going to be blogging together part-time, these are some great tips to help our future blog and future marriage. Perfect timing.

  11. Hello Phil. Thank you for this guest post. I have a hard time convincing my wife what blogging does for me, let alone what it can do for her small business.

    Your tips and suggestions are very good and something that can be done and achievable. I will give it a try and see if I can make my wife change her mind.

  12. Sonia says:

    Excellent post. I actually got my husband to start his own blog although he hasn’t posted in a while but at least he got his feet wet.

    1. It’s all about getting started! Just keep chugging along and it will start to come together definitely!

  13. No matter how many times I suggest to my wife to create a blog about one of her interests, it doesn’t seem to do anything…the desire has to be there to make your blog successful..

  14. wheres mrschow.com blog? hahah

    1. Great idea! I know that John’s daughter has her own blog, but not sure about his wife 😉 SY

  15. Interesting article. Great!

  16. Darius Money says:

    Great Post… By opening up and letting your spouse into your world of blogging, it will make them feel like they are apart of what makes you happy..

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  18. Very good idea 🙂 When interests are same, the relation becomes stronger. If both husband and wife are doing the blogging and both are writing on the topics, they have interest for, then it will not only strengthen the relation but also their blogs 🙂

  19. What a great idea! Having your significant other see how fulfilling a blog can be could go a long way toward the resentment that spouses often feel when their wife (or husband!) spends a lot of time on the computer.

  20. d3so says:

    This is something I don’t think we ever think about. Blogging can improve our life in many ways especially relationships with our loved ones. I suppose they must also have a knack for writing articles otherwise this might be difficult but less if you’re willing to help.

  21. interesting article Phil ..:) …thanks..

  22. fas says:

    That is a nice way of spending time with family and earning the $$$$$$$$$$$

  23. amitkumar says:

    Thanks on that , I definitely believe Blogging works as both tend to work as partners which strengthens their understanding and develops rapport.
    Great write up Thanks again

  24. Nigel Chua says:

    I that’s a great idea, assuming they love to blog and write too! By giving them (our spouse) the chance to free express things they are passionate about, we also glean the chance to learn more about their likes and dislikes. On top of that, the chance to work together on a couple project? Gooooood. And the chance to bounce of each other if the both blogs CAN complement each other – great! =)

  25. Charles says:

    Hey thats a great idea I actually saw that on a commercial. I think its definitely good for spending time together.

  26. When I get married – I hope my wife likes to blog about things as well – Can you imagine the blogging? I think it’s an awesome relationship builder.

    Caleb

  27. I’m going to try to convince my wife of this tonight. She doesn’t like all my computer/blogging time, but this is an entirely new angle!

    1. Heheheheh! My point too! Get them involved and they will lay off you not spending enough time with them! A double score! YAY!

  28. Rick says:

    Great idea! I know that John’s daughter has her own blog, but not sure about his wife 😉 SY

  29. Dave says:

    When I get married – I hope my wife likes to blog about things as well – Can you imagine the blogging? I think it’s an awesome relationship builder.

    Caleb

  30. That is one way to get the wife to stop complaining about all the time you spend on the internet……get her to get in behind her own machine and blog! Great idea, plus the opportunity to make a double income from husband and wife interacting on this level.

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