How To Get A Girlfriend (Part 4)

This post was guest blogged by Alex Shalman (RSS).

Many of you have been wondering how getting a girlfriend applies to making money on line. Some of you even consider that girlfriends are counter-productive and useless (you’ve probably never had one).

While it’s true that some girlfriends can be the opposite of helpful when it comes to making money online, others are quite helpful. My girlfriend edits some of my work, and has written a couple of articles for me in the past. I’d say that was helpful. Maybe she’s even writing this article? Fat chance.

The truth about this series is that in every single article you learn a different way of interacting with people, not just the female species. Making money online, despite the popular consensus in the comments here, is all about relationships.

Also see Parts 1, 2, 3 of this series.

Asking Her Out

Note: The point of this article is to instruct you in how to ask a girl out without being rejected, and without making the situation seem awkward. Think about using these points with potential business partners, or finding a girlfriend that will make money online for you.

  1. You’re My Girlfriend. When I asked out my girlfriend I gave her a verbal memo that said, “you’re my girlfriend.” What do you know, it worked. I wasn’t nervous, I already knew that we were compatible, I was detached from the outcome, we enjoyed each others company, and both wanted a relationship to come out of our friendship. Perhaps that’s cheating?
  2. Detach Yourself From Outcome. I just mentioned that I was detached from the outcome when handing her the rights to be my girlfriend. If she said no, I would have been absolutely fine with that choice. If I was afraid, or nervous, she would have smelled it on me. Dogs can smell fear too. It’s actually a repulsive smell (I think, I don’t know, I’m not a dog).
  3. Know Her Answer. This is why I said I was cheating in #1. I already knew she was going to say “yes!” (well, I didn’t ask, I just gave her the memo, but I knew we were on the same page). Do you have reason to believe that she’s into you and wants a relationship, and that there is a need to take what you have to a further degree? If you’ve answered yes, proceed.
  4. Let Her Ask You. Stereotypes say that a man should ask a woman out. Perhaps this is true, but I often like to crush stereotypes and go for what’s practical. Yes, I’ve had girls ask me out in the past, and you can too. It takes a certain level of teasing, and having them want you so bad, that they can’t wait anymore.
  5. Ask. Sometimes there’s no need to do anything else but ask, and wait for a reply. The ball isn’t exactly in your court here, but I have a solution. Ask: “Would you like to be my girlfriend.”, and if she says, “no”, you simply say “I’m sorry, you thought I was asking you? Haha… no, I was just curious if you wanted to be, I’m personally not interested.”

One thing that helped me become great with girls, and with people in general, is not concentrating on girls, but rather concentrating on becoming a winner. However, I must admit that I’ve read dozens of books on “pick up”, so I’m sure that helped as well.

My friend Tynan, he’s been in the game longer than I have, and has read much more material than I have. In fact, he’s hollywood famous for it, and he could write his own book on picking up girls. Actually, he did, it’s called Make Her Chase You, and I’ll give you a money back guarantee that it will in fact make the “her” in your life chase you.


64 thoughts on “How To Get A Girlfriend (Part 4)”

  1. LOL Recipes does not work much well in real life. However that would give an overview to the novices in love life :mrgreen:

    1. NO love recipe works ever- there is no hard and fast rules for this.

      1. General tips does though

        1. I agree with OC Gold course that general rules are a good guide for success.

  2. Krsto says:

    There are many things that I need to know about, and they can be found on the Internet. But getting a girlfrien is not one of them…

  3. Alex,
    Your comment “finding a girlfriend that will make money online for you” is a little over the top. I know you did not mean it this way, and least I don’t think you did, but one of those classic slip ups…

    Not sure if anyone has seen this, but check out this new trend in the workplace…heartbreak leave

    1. you are probably right but John Chow is making money online by having someone else “write” about getting a girlfriend. 😈

  4. Whoops, heres the link for “heartbreak leave”. It is classic…

  5. The solution you gave in number 5 is hilarious! Haha

  6. Hmmmmm…. For me, just a little effort to get a certified GF. its up you how can you make a move. just be on your self 🙂

  7. Tom says:

    you left your affiliate id in the link… so that is what this was all leading up to? could’ve at least spared us the disappointment and masked or obfuscated your aff id.

    1. What did you think this series was? An act of kindness?

  8. Matt says:

    This series has definitely been a low point of my blog-reading days

  9. Okay, come back to business, where is the blog income report for June? (Query to be routed to John, Alex excuse me please)

  10. Lolz… funny blog post there buddy — I have to agree with the let the girl ask the guy out for once! I mean, most certainly the problem is that most guys these days lack self-esteem. Stereotypes are so over-played, I can’t remember the last girl I’ve dated that knew how to make a nice meal… in all honesty! 😆 Times are changing.

  11. dcr says:

    That girl must be a popular download on whatever stock photo site her image is on. I swear I see that photo keep popping up everywhere.

  12. fas says:

    There was some service i subscribed to called double your dating program, needless to say it was kind of crap.

  13. What is this article about “getting girlfriends” doing on JohnChow dot com? We don’t need girlfriends, we need money.

    1. What are you talking about, we need both!

  14. ethnu says:

    The 5th point about asking is spot on, its about being witty at times.

  15. ethnu says:

    Point 5 is spot on, its all about being witty at times.

  16. Erika Harris says:

    I asked John to consider INCLUDING A WOMAN’S PERSPECTIVE to this series, particularly this 4th installment which was supposed to answer the question: “Will having more money help you get a girlfriend?”

    John offered to read my perspective so I sent it to him. He didn’t respond, so I’m taking the liberty of posting it here:

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    “I plan to marry for love the second time.”

    She actually said that! I was having dinner with a new female acquaintance. I didn’t know her very well, and this statement really turned me off. Women like her, who care about a man’s money more than his character… and men who care about a woman’s looks more than her character… both of these shallow perspectives annoy me because they reduce a person to their least consequential asset.

    Q: Wanna know how to quickly distinguish an important asset from an unimportant one?

    A: Imagine yourself with one final hour to live, and envision how much – or how little – you are impacted by that asset.

    I’m not trying to be morbid or dramatic. I’m just sharing my value system with you. Beauty and money rock! They both make life more enjoyable. But they are not foundational. They are not strong enough to hold life’s heavier stuff. The gold-digging chick who took my appetite hasn’t figured this out… and the guys who basically pay her to be their sweet-eye-candy haven’t either. Bottom-line: You can buy “hot,” but you can’t buy “heart.”

    Money is an amplifier. Whatever you are (e.g. thoughtful, obnoxious, a player, responsible, generous, etc.) money just cranks up the volume on what is already there.

    If you’re following John Chow’s money-making advice, chances are you will soon meet success, if you haven’t already… and you will buy cool toys with your loads of cash… and you will want someone with whom to share your fast ride, lovely home and exotic travels. And you will enjoy those experiences so much more with the confidence that your chosen woman would still be by your side even if you lost everything. A gold-digger can never give, or sell, you that kind of peace of mind.

    You can connect with a high-quality woman who also turns you on and makes you pant. But you will never get that Ocean if you stay satisfied with a Creek. Expect more, and you’ll get it.

    As an internet entrepreneur, I know you are an accelerated and independent thinker; otherwise, you would be content with the tired 9-to5-til-you’re-65 model that so many worker-bee-types still go for. But not you. And since you are on the fast-track to building your wealth and freedom, why not also be on the fast-track in your quest for a girlfriend? Whether or not you have deep pockets, here’s how to get a girlfriend you would actually want to keep, and who would actually want to stay with you through thick and thin:

    1. Be very clear with yourself.

    A lot of dating advice tells you to make a list of the things you want in a partner, as though you were picking out features on a car. I have a different take on this. I say decide how you want to feel in your relationship, (e.g. respected, excited, nurtured, desired, motivated, relaxed, etc.). Then, pursue and spend more time with women who make you feel that way.

    2. Be very clear with others.

    No one likes a pretender, except other pretenders (and they are a drain to be around, and their company sucks, too). You attract what you are, so be real. Be you. Drop the mask and costume. It’s not Halloween, and you’re not Rico Suave. There is no sane reason to play emotional games with someone, and I know that an ambitious money-maker like yourself would not squander his greatest resource (time) with juvenile crap like ego-based games.

    3. Protect and enjoy your relationship! Don’t take it, or her, for granted.

    I say “protect” because it is so common for people to sabotage the very thing they have been wanting for years, not long after they get it. (Think Lotto winners, for example). They have become so accustomed to not having that desired thing or experience that when it finally does become a part of their reality, they freak out and mess it up – unconsciously – so that they can go back to their comfort-zone of fantasizing rather than materializing. So I say again, be conscious and protect your relationship. When they are positive and healthy, relationships are the most valuable treasure in all the world. They are one of the very few things to pass the hypothetical test of “one-hour-to-live” that I shared with you at the beginning of this comment.

    Getting and keeping a girlfriend requires the same kind of foresight, planning and anticipation that you use when launching an internet business. In both endeavors you consider:

    * Who is your market?
    * What do you offer that market?
    * What do you want in exchange for what you’re offering that market?

    These are reasonable questions to keep in mind while dating.

    The world is incredibly wired, but internet professionals especially are more prone to end up a little short in enriching offline experiences. A caring relationship is a great antidote to that problem.

    Getting a girlfriend is not a money issue. It is a meaning issue. And you can create whatever meaning you want. I dare you to be as visionary and limitless in your relationship-thinking as you are in your business-thinking. Do not let past experiences restrain you in any way. Be the same risk-taker for love that you are for money! Do that, and you know what will happen? You will make the world, the internet and your home much better places… because the world, the internet and your home need more radical, fearless lovers.
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    In case you’re wondering who this long-winded commenter is, my name is Erika Harris, and I am an incurable romantic and idealist who recently started my first blog at http://lifeblazing.com. Follow me at http://twitter.com/lifeblazing

  17. James Wilcox says:

    I wish I found these posts amusing but in the end they are just filler. Not that I need to read post after post about making money online…I just don’t find these posts amusing or interesting in the least…and before you say anything I’ve been happily married for the past 13 years.

    1. But even money making online posts are repetitive right? If it’s real secrets, are people really going to share?

  18. I like the tips..
    And we must have enough money to get a girlfriends too…

    1. Everyone said the same thing. The graduation exam for this series should be to get girls to at least pay for their own part!

  19. LMAO on part to ASK her 🙂

  20. Fifty says:

    guys, this is secretly a post about making money online

    the guest blogger is probably writing something up on his blog entitles “how to make money guest blogging”

    check the aff link

  21. This line would work, “Would you like to be my girlfriend, and help me spend my money?

    1. I like that. Let’s start with helping you spend your money first and we will see how that goes. 😈

  22. jeflin says:

    Your beginning sentences were ok but as I read on, I have to confess that it wasn’t entertaining enough. Some of the points and the picture of the hot lady are good though…

    Jeff
    http://jeflin.net

  23. Forget about money for a while – as john advise me last time “how to get a girl friend” is equally important; after all its all about how you devlop yourself in the community.

  24. I think the most important tip is just to be yourself, keep it real, It’s one thing to get the girlfriend, it’s a whole different ballgame to keep the girlfriend

  25. Cory says:

    Shankar, I’d have to agree with Mr. Wilcox, this is just filler. If the “How to get a girlfriend” series was indeed meant to be symbolic, why wouldn’t Alex state that, and explicitly tie it in with some of John’s money-making concepts? That would make more sense to me.

  26. Money gets you girls. Simple as that. 😎

    1. Yea, but then they spend it, if that’s the kind of girl you end up getting.

      1. Every girl spends money whether they go out with you because of it. 🙂

      2. Not every girl is a golddigger!

        1. Syed Balkhi says:

          Totally agreed, not every girl is a gold digger…Stereotyping like that is just ridiculous.

  27. OCGolfCourse says:

    The best part about this series is……

    The picture! 🙂

  28. Stockerati says:

    I love this. JC, you do have a way to get an exciting discussion started. FWIW, I love coming to your site mainly to get inspired and learn about making money and more importantly to catch on the banter between you and Shoe. You guys rock!
    Good Luck.
    Stockerati (http://stockerati.com)

  29. Bro Alex says:

    Point 5 is totally insane. Only some type of guys are able to do such thing, not me. Some girls might think you are some kind of a clown. Money does help to get a prettier girlfriend but not for so long. 👿 Money goes down the pipe, nobody wants that.

  30. Hong Kong says:

    There are thousands of websites that are focused on the whole pickup topic. I read these sites as well and think it’s quite interesting. However this series about getting a girlfriend is so out of place here at johnchow.com . I wonder whi it is here.

    I would even expect some series about “how to connect with successful, rich women” and an advertisement link at the end for millionairmate or something like that….

    John, I hope You write an article later if this series helped Your blog and in what way, or if it was a waste of time. I’m curious.

    1. Syed Balkhi says:

      probably not a waste of his time because he is not doing anything. He is getting irrelevant posts on this blog, but as long as it interests the user.

      It doesn’t go with this blog, but the tips on this post are correct.

      1. Hong Kong says:

        Yes, the information is correct, however it is even a bit toned down, compared what You can read on other sites that are focused on seduction. But that’s not the point….

        It has been preached in countless articles to stick to Your niche. I really feel this series doesn’t belong here. Even less, because no reference to other posts on this blog are made. Some of the methods used for seducing women are also used in business. There are indeed posts on Johnchow.com which feature some of these methods, but in a business perspective. Why not link these?

        Maybe these series is just to make sure, that the keyword “girlfriend” is included on this blog…? Still curious about the real intentions of this series.

  31. Ecko says:

    This is what I need. Well, please let me copy this article so I can read it everytime I need is. 😀

  32. IMFreakz says:

    You know what I need this time. I hope this will help me 😀

  33. Syed Balkhi says:

    Yes it is very true that some girlfriends help out alot. My g/f has gotten in the industry as well. She helps me write posts, and keep track of the deadlines.

  34. fas says:

    Getting a girl friend is different from seduction. This post is about love not lust.

  35. Forumistan says:

    Wow. Nice article. But Getting a girlfriend is not easy 🙂

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  36. venkat says:

    ha ha ha ha !!!

    this reminds me of good old days when folks used to cool there own creative ideas for a cool girl friend and a dating friend !!!

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  37. getting girlfriend is easy if you were true and honest with the girl.

  38. Nate says:

    Those pesky restraining orders always seem to drive a wedge into the blossoming love.

  39. Speaking as a girl, I can say that having a boyfriend can be quite useful with money making too. My husband comes up with some good ideas but never carries them out, so I have to!

  40. I wonder if this works in real life. Has anyone used this step by stp guide succesfully?

    1. Hong Kong says:

      I think this is less of a guide. You should take this as an guide to what attitude to keep in mind, when trying to get a girl

  41. Wade says:

    Go to a bar, and buy a girl a few drinks. Just stay away from the square dancing bars. They get wild in there, and you will get hit in the head with a beer bottle if she has a boyfriend.

    Shudogg Dot Com – Make Money Online Blogging

  42. wiili says:

    thx for trying to help me 😆
    but i have no hopes

  43. Forumistan says:

    Owh man, where can you find these hot pics 😛

  44. Luis says:

    I want a boyfriend not a girlfriend, but I want money first and foremost. This entry was borring.

  45. Geiger says:

    Wow there Alex! You’re missing a big step here. You gave them some groundwork on how to get a girls interest and a date and what to do on a 1st date, but you haven’t told the boys how to go from date 1 to girlfriend. How many dates? What to do on dates? How to maintain the interest.

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