Written by Alex Shalman, who does for Personal Development what Bruce Lee did for Kung Fu.
Two things that will forever be intertwined within the universal laws of human interactions are dating and business. In either one or the other there is a very particular courtship; a playful hope at a connection, if only in the present moment.
Make no mistake, I am not a pick up artist (PUA), nor am I a scoundrel of the business persuasion. On the other hand, I am not denouncing the company of a female companion for the pure exultation of the climax, nor am I dismissing the jubilance of penetrating a gentleman’s purse with my ideas.
To each his own, but my goal is to simply show you how it’s done, not to dictate what you use this new found skill for. After all, at the end of the day you have to live with your own decisions right?
I’m not part of the PUA community, and while I’m not hating on using certain techniques, I’m mostly advocating being yourself and finding the most perfect match for you. I’m not saying being yourself as in being an AFC.
If your social skills are poor, you can always improve on them. However, there are core essentials to what you are, and more importantly to what you want, that need to be determined first. Once you know what you want, it’s easy to filter out all the people that don’t fit the bill, and go out there and grab the one that’s right for you with full confidence.
When you know the type of girl that you want, you’ll end up rejecting a lot of girls, because they don’t fit your particular requirements. When you do a bunch of rejecting, you demonstrate that you are of higher value. Eventually when you find the one that tickles your fancy, you’ll already be in a position of high quality.
When you know the type of client you’re looking for, you’ll end up rejecting a lot of clients, because they don’t fit your particular requirements. When you do a bunch of rejecting, you demonstrate that you are of higher value. Eventually when you find the one that tickles your fancy, you’ll already be in a position of high quality.
Yes, you did just read the same paragraph twice. As you can already see, you can substitute nearly any word in this formula and the equation works. Try it for yourself with words such as blogger, pickle, or boss. See? They all fit into the equation.
Speaking of bloggers, notice how John has high-quality guest bloggers on his site? Not naming any names, just saying. That’s because John has established himself as a high-quality blogger that is known for top notch content.
To put my money where my mouth is, I recently started a Podcast show on iTunes, and I’ve already got some excellent interviews on there, including John Chow. See here (link opens iTunes application). I first demonstrated value for the Podcast by uploading my appearance on SIRIUS Satellite Radio, and then I only ask people to come on the show that I think have a lot of value to add, are high-profile, super successful, or have an inspiring self-improvement story.
It’s a no brainer that being selective is the key to success. Just look how all of us got here, the Theory of Natural SELECTION. Only the strong survive, right? I talk more about being selective in my free ebook, How to Get a Girlfriend, where I demonstrate all the right questions to ask yourself in order to figure out exactly what you’re looking for.
Going through life not knowing what you want, either in relationships, with clients, bloggers, pickles, or bosses, will leave you with the choice that no body else wanted. Get the knowledge, make the decision, and change your life!